I have recently moved to New Zealand. I have really enjoyed it here but strange things are happening. I have made a lot of really nice friends, however, I can't get comfortable around them or any new people I may encounter because as soon as I touch them I can start telling them things about their family, their past, what they do for a living, and any anxieties they may be having. When this happens I get so embarrassed but I just can’t stop it! 

What has frightened me the most is I was playing poker with three of my friends and I started hearing someone say the name Jordan almost at a whisper over and over. I thought “sh**  I am going insane!!” I tried to ignore it but the voice (which was an older woman’s voice) got louder and stern. After a few minutes I could not concentrate on the game and I just blurted out “who the hell is Jordan?” My friends all looked at me strangely and the women kept saying Jordan over and over – I thought my head was going to exploded from all the noise - and then one of friends said “it is my middle name” and instantly the women stopped!  Everyone went really quiet and I have no idea why but I then said to him “tell your mum not to miss her doctors appointment…”

It turns out that his mum was meant to have a follow up the next day with her Oncologist (I had no idea she has cancer) but she was refusing to go because she was scared that her treatment had not worked!  He also informed me that he has only ever lost one person in his life – his grandmother – so I am assuming it was her saying Jordan.

I have practically avoided any contact with my friends since then because I am really embarrassed and scared that this sort of thing is going to happen again. And as I am in a new country I have no idea where to turn! I guess I am hoping you can suggest someone I could talk to about this.

Thank you for your time

Kate, New Zealand

Dear Kate,

You sound frightened-don't be. It seems to me you are another natural at mediumship and have a strong psychic ability- to which you are waking up to! In fact, so many of us are also waking up to that as well.

There are changes that are helping the ‘human family’ to evolve, and many are claiming their natural abilities So, do not be frightened. Astrologer Jessica Murray, also explains that in terms astrological alignment- we are building up to t eh Grand Cross alignment. You can listen to more on that in my podcast interview with her.

Since it comes that easily to you now, it means you're ready now to open up to it; more than that, you are probably an old soul and adept at that from other life times. The question is do you want this 'gift'?

What is your intention? How would you use it, and why? The point of my questions is to make you realise that you create you own life. So it is up to you. If you do not wish for it, juts say to the 'voice' go to the light, I do not wish to do wish this', or something like that in your own words.

I suggest you also read about opening up so that you understand how to work with spirit. You can set the means and way in which you can work together so that it does not take your life over! We have control, they abide by our wishes; as nothing happens really without our consent (consciously or unconsciously- that is the law of self will that all spirit abide by).

You can also join a psychic or mediumship development class so you can learn how to tune in, and more importantly in your case, how to close down. Sometimes, when we are paying attention to spirit, they grab our attention. I believe this is what has happened to you. Your spiritual abilities are transforming from caterpillar to a butterfly. Marvellous! Now it is up to you how this unfolds. Know that you are in control, not any other spirit. As a teacher once told me 'anything in a body is much stronger than anything without one!'.

Kelvin Cruickshank

About three years ago, I met a wonderful medium (and human being) from New Zealand, Kelvin Cruickshank. Since you are in New Zealand, please look him up and see if he hold classes. You can read more about him in this article:

Spirituality : Mediumship/Channelling
Kelvin Cruickshank - Psychic/Medium from New Zealand
Kelvin Cruickshank is medium from New Zealand who will be on a professional visit to the Uk soon- for the first time. Kelvin came across my web site over the internet. His story of how became a medium is an inspiring and touching one. He kindly wrote this insightful article specially for PS Magazine readers.

Kate, is sounds to me the spirit communicating with you was trying to help her daughter and get a message across; and it is wonderful that it was through you- to be able to help another being is a gift.

Three books can be helpful about this:

- The Truth About Medium, based on real life research studies on the real Allison DuBois; to be reviewed in PS Magazine shortly.

- Opening to Channel: How to Connect with Your Guide, Sanaya Roman, Duane Packer, pub. HJ Kramer, Tiburon, CA, 1987. The basics are well explained. An essential starting point. Highly recommended.

- and The Little Dutch Boy: Study in Psychic Communication  
Ronald Hearn . Ronald Hearn is one of the best mediums here in the UK.

I found this really helpful too:

My Life as a Medium, Betty Shine, HarperCollins, Paperback - April 6, 1999.

Please, also read other articles in Agony Aunt, including:

Hope above helps

Sahar

I have been receiving many questions of general nature, about psychic and spiritual matters from visitors to the web site and readers of PS Magazine from all over the world. I hope to be able to bring readers more information through this free service. To send questions regarding psychic or spiritual matters, or material in this magazine; send Comments to the editor. I will attempt to post replies in this column ASAP. Sahar